I see myself as a lively, bright and sociable girl. I love to interact with new people and have no problem making new friends. But somehow, my personality became a problem when I started dating men in South Korea at the age of Many men approached me, expressing an interest in my outgoing personality. But sooner or later, they started to complain about things that energize my life, what I think are important, like interacting with people and having fun at interesting social gatherings. I thought, is my outgoing personality — which was attractive to them in the beginning — an obstacle to developing a stable relationship?
I soon found out that I was not alone. A bunch of my girlfriends had similar worries when dating South Korean men. Some guys I knew loved hanging out with girls whom they called cool and funny — for example, girls who could drink two bottles of soju straight. But the same guys would get angry when their own girlfriends tried to drink more than one can of beer. They wanted to date a girl who was smart and independent enough to handle her own life, but also dependent enough to respect their choices, rely on them to make decisions, and get advice from them when faced with difficulties.
You can see this contradictory expectation in female heroines of many K-dramas. She should be resilient but needs to be rescued when hardship arises. I thought it more a fantasy of men who craved unequal power relations with their girlfriends than a reality. As a young woman, I kept wondering about how I should act, and how much of myself I should show men.
In struggling, I sometimes found myself trying to do naesung and aegyo. Aegyo and naesung are two modes of behavior young women are expected to engage in when dealing with men. Naesung on the other hand is acting coy, not being outright honest. Both terms are rarely used to prescribe how men should behave.
Then in my late 20s, I met someone. He was in finance, in his first job after college. I had already been working for several years by then. We dated over a year. For a long time, he never commented on my social gatherings or asked me to see him as my sole source of emotional support. He gave me space — and he gave himself space.http://web.difccourts.ae/dos-gatos-chiflados-en-un-libro.php
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He was considerate, and accepting. Then a miracle happened. I found myself voluntarily doing the so-called girlish actions, especially aegyo. Photo Day September 14th — couples take a photo together and put it somewhere nice to look at.
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You can follow me tinasyhsu. My Korean boyfriend never fails to ask if I have eaten yet. And I am still not used to it haha I find it funny how he has to ask me every day, but I understand its a big part of their culture.
For anyone is interested in reading more about our relationship! I just found something!! My friends must find me annoying by now since I always try to ask them how they are and if they are or slept well. I think you got everything too btw! I think the Korean culture is sweet. I hope the kids do not adopt the more western ways of having sex before marriage. You will be so much happier if you are faithful to each other and do not practice fornication and adultery. Those things are disappearing in the USA….
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